We are very humbled and honored to have Marissa join us and write a story for the 1000 Ripple Effects Book.
Marissa is a high school English and Legal Studies teacher and sees the incredible value of stories and the impact that they can have on young lives. She is passionate about enriching young lives and has chosen the 1000 Ripple Effect project as one way to actively achieve that goal.
Marissa is a lifelong learner and has several university degrees. She has recently been published in Volume 2 of The Regionalist, the journal associated with the Institute for Regional Security in Canberra.
Although she loves writing about international relations, world security and politics, she also loves escaping into a good book. She has always been an avid reader and has always known that there are stories she just needs to write.
Marissa has a passion for creating young adult fiction and has recently written her first full length novel: the first in a series of fractured classics. Her message for all aspiring authors is to just do it. Let the story flow out of you and worry about what happens with it afterwards. Let your truth be told.
Barbara is a spiritual magpie and co-creator of Daring Spirits, where the mission is to bring meditation into the mainstream. Barbara serves as a lightening bolt to instigate change and help you magnify your purpose. As an Energy Worker (clairvoyant, medium, and teacher), she'll rouse your inner dragon and show you how to work with it instead of shy away from it.
She honors her creative energy by showing up and letting Spirit take the lead, co-creating with the Universe as a student of A Course in Miracles. She's made peace with her inner bull in the china shop after decades of unsuccessful attempts to quiet it. Curious and more than a little irreverent, nothing thrills her more than hearing authentic truth expressed without fear (or, even juicier - despite fear!).
Written by: Kayleen Greagen-Castle,
When you look at society today, most of us have our heads down looking at a rectangular screen, funnily enough, this is exactly what I look like right now, coffee to my right as I wait for the car to be cleaned. There is something I feel is different however to people looking down at screens compared to what a lot of people assume is happening, and it's what people are doing while they're looking down.
One thing which is more and more apparent is people seeking inspiration. Not only people seeking inspiration, those who are offering it too. There are people everywhere seeking uplifting content, reading empowering quotes, inspirational personal development books and audiobooks, additionally, more and more people are sharing, demonstrating and offering those things too.
Along with people reading with their heads down, there is a stack more people these days with their heads up looking at positive and inspirational role models. Women and Men who are standing in front of crowds uplifting citizens to empower them to improve their own lives, in whatever area/s it is at the time! More and more people are taking to the stages to share their messages.
The thing which inspires more and more people to live a fulfilled life, are the real life stories of how people came to be successful, how people rose against adversities, how they went against the crowd, the underdog. Why? Because it shows 'regular joes' can have a life full of their dreams fulfilled and be successful too. It wouldn't nearly be as empowering if it seemed the goals and dreams you have were so far out of reach because those who were successful seemed like superhuman who've seemingly achieved the impossible.
Seeing others empowered to make a difference in their life along with the lives of others is empowering, a ripple effect, and for every empowered human being, Man, Woman, Child, another human is empowered and so the domino affect begins in reverse, instead of dominos being knocked down, every domino pulls up another domino after it, standing tall, United, Empowered! Collectively, this is how we are changing the world.
Admittedly, we do spend too often looking down at a rectangle screen than up and at the world around us, to remind ourselves there is more to life than just screentime, however, there is a STACK of incredible content around the world which is inspiring, uplifting, empowering and assists in your personal growth should this be something you are after.
Each of us has a unique opportunity to offer a service to the world, and there isn't a better way than following your own dreams and passions, to walk the tightrope and be the person you wish to be, doing the things you want to do. You never know how many people you will inspire simply by following your own dreams. Your example may give them the courage to stand up and go after what they too desire, after all, if you're empowered, chances are somewhere along the line, you've seen or felt it from another person and just decided to go for it. Each of us are stars, designed to shine, to offer the light we have inside, and by sharing or reflecting the light we have, others can also shine their light.
Positivity is contagious, as is being empowered. When you show you're a strong independent person chasing after your dreams, others catch the bug.
Get out and shine your light, share your gift. What will it be? What do you have to share? How can you help? The true gift of life is giving, the most fulfilling feeling in the world is the service of others.
If you have a message to share, one you'd like published, check out www.facebook.com/1000rippleeffects to become part of the collaborative book project giving back to children and the world, creating ripple effects, to empower and inspire children to succeed in life, no matter which way it is.
Children are our future generation, we get to make way for future generations for it is those who will change the world in ways we haven't even seen yet.
Written by Kayleen Greagen-Castle, living an empowered life, shining my light on the world through words.
For more of my work, checkout www.thoughtfulperspectives.com
How the combined ripple effects of your experiences create the INNER and STRONGER YOU! – An interview with John Stephen Broadbent
Written by: Louise Keramaris
The first of May is a significant date for you? What happened on this date?
On 1 May 1987, I decided to leave the security of permanent employment and a regular pay-check, and head out on my own. I was in a pretty comfortable place at the time when I left my job as I was able to collect my superannuation and long service leave, I was debt free and I owned my own house. I had a $3,500 a month in income and owed nothing! I was bored with my pharmaceutical position and my “heart was not in the business.” I was approached by a colleague who was a contractor to provide support in his business so I threw caution to the wind and seized the opportunity.
What was going through your mind at that time? What were you saying to yourself? What were you feeling? What were you thinking?
I'll never forget that first day of wonder, knowing the world truly was my playground! I felt an extraordinary sense of liberation and that I was the master of my own destiny.
I reflected back on my high school motto which was “Every man is the maker of his own fortune”. If I back track to my birth my parents were advised that I had “24 hours to live when I was born”! In so in many ways I was not “supposed to live” and yet it was this “tenacity” within me as a driver running throughout my life. I grew up as an only child where I had to adapt totally on my own and then later in life I got myself my own scholarship and then cadetship. I spent a lot of time on my own with a “strong sense of independence or rather anti-dependence”. I saw this strength as a “double edged sword”. I got everything by myself.
Later in 1991, the 'recession Australia had to have' cost me my home, my life savings and my 17 year relationship. And a time for some deep introspection after contemplating suicide for feeling such a failure. I remember leaving the house that I built and owned on the long weekend of October 1992 and looking at the keys as I left them on the breakfast bar and walked out with a suitcase, to head to a job in Kuala Lumpur.
When you said you “were contemplating suicide for feeling such a failure” – What did you focus on that prevented you from going down that path?
I drew on specific memories that helped me during this tumultuous time in my life. Let me give you some context… At the beginning of 1991 my wife wanted to swim with the dolphins in Monkey Mia. You can imagine that this was not something that I was keen to do being an engineer! However, I did do it and during this challenging time in my life I managed to reflect on this extraordinary experience. I recall being so immersed in their world and having so much fun and joy. What I most remember is the synchronous event that followed.
When we got back from Monkey Mia I got a phone call from the personal assistant of a spiritual teacher who had recently moved from Adelaide to Sydney, inviting us to a “dolphin meditation”! How that person got my phone number is still a mystery! I was destined to meet this extraordinary man living in “tie-died King G overalls” who happened to be one year younger than me. I ended up going to one of his workshops in June 1991 and within 3 minutes of talking to him he had me in tears. I hadn’t cried like this in years. He then said to me “I know you better than you know yourself.” It was this friend and mentor and these experiences that I drew on during this time.
I came to realise that I needed to be stripped bare of all the things that society tells us are important so that I could recognise what was left was “me”! I spent the next 8 years or so investing in myself and used all my income to travel with this man to various countries and met a Shaman in Alaska, Healers in Bali, Elders at Uluru, Masaai in Kenya and sages in the Himalayas. What I had to go through I would describe as “dismantling my ego” completely. What I realised was that I had to connect with a “complete lack of self-worth” that was at my core, to dismantle this and then re-assemble and build my new self.
Later in 2008/9 the Global Financial Crisis cost me $300k in a wellness centre, again, overexposed and not enough in the bank for a month of rainy days. Being homeless for 8 weeks with a 1year old and 6year old is not an experience I'd like to repeat, however it humbled me by the support I received from our school community. Looking back, it was probably the beginning of the end of my second long-term relationship, which eventually ended last March.
As you reflect on the past 9 years, what advice would you give to someone that is themselves going through a massive upheaval in their life?
The pain is worth it! The sense of liberation is enormous. You only do it once. In effect, you’re engaging with your psyche. The first time is very painful as it is the death of a part of the ego but as you take a little chunk at a time you see the cycle of your own self-empowerment journey unfolding, so you take another bite and then another. You learn more of who you are and then you take another bite and soon enough inertia builds up and you are “learning that who you are is the gift of unlocking something about yourself” and then you realise the “how I know what I know” is the journey towards “the gift of wisdom”. You realise how much the unconscious level has been controlling you and you see this gift as a celebration. I realised then when “we think we are in control” we are truly at the call of our unconscious controllers. We need to do the inner work to come to this place of self-realisation.
As you reflect on the key events that rocked your life what “ripples” did they create? In particularly what ripples were created:
There is no competition between me and my sons and if I can give you an example of the nature of our relationship, I recall a time recently where my son was sitting next to me and simply leaned into me and put his head on my shoulder. At the age of 15 years that so moved me. I’ve also more recently reflected on his experiences with his ex-girlfriends and how he has called each of them to account when “they lied to him or played games – he called it “putting his mind through a blender.” I am so proud that he has such a strong sense of who he is in the world.
The work I’ve been undertaking on over the last 25 years, experiencing “rites of passage” ceremonies with boys, attending mens’ groups and gatherings is focused on understanding the maturing process of men. It has included providing a safe environment to take boys and young men on that journey. My work has been drawn from research done in this area by a key Anthropologist, Arnold Von Gennup, who worked and studied the “rites” of Indigenous communities world-wide. What Gennup identified is that there are common practices across all communities. These are in 3 areas: separation, initiation and integration, also known as pre-liminal, liminal and post-liminal.
For example, the boy is taken away from the main tribe for a period of time. During this time the boy is then supported to participate in a mysterious process of initiation to test his stamina, fortitude and grit. Following on from this practice the boy is then re-integrated back into the community as a “warrior”. The boy is now expected to operate from a place without the ‘me’ ego. This work has proved to address a huge gap in what is absent from many cultures and societies today.
What else have you learned about yourself?
I have learned to trust myself now. I’ve become aware of what is called the “witness process”. At the Wellness centre in 2008, there was an outstanding NLP practitioner who explained the concept of the “witness process”. By this she was able to describe that I was experiencing an awareness of this “observer” in me whilst I was watching me. I thought at one point I was going mad as I had this ongoing sense of watching and monitoring myself. She explained that it would go away in its own time and yes it did do just that. It’s then that I realised that I am free, that I trust myself and at my core I know what to do in any circumstance. If I do make a poor decision (I don’t believe we ever make mistakes), it then becomes an opportunity for reflection and further growth.
Last year between April and May, I ended my 21year relationship, buried my cousin and also asked a 20-year friend to leave our business partnership. It was a whirlwind time of my life, yet considering what was going on I had this “deeper inner peace” of “acceptance”. I felt in one piece and mentally, physically well and solid. I understood that I was simply where I needed to be. I noted the “paradox of being nothing and everything at the same time”. It reminded me of the experience I felt whilst doing a profound workshop in Uluru many years ago. A privilege granted with the respect of the Traditional Owners. At this powerful workshop, I experienced a process where each person was led into an egg shaped hole in Uluru and invited to climb in and sit in an almost foetal position. I watched as each person had to be carried out of the hole which was intriguing in itself. When my turn came, I climbed in and as I connected to the space my consciousness was propelled into space where I experienced a state of bliss and being-ness and I was consumed with a divine sense of oneness. I thought “there is no way I’m getting out” and then like the others before me, I too had to be carried out!
So tonight, 1 May 2017, I'm pouring myself a wee dram of Lagavulin (my favourite single malt whiskey) to remind myself of my grit and determination in still wanting to turn up every day and give my best.
Do I have difficult days? Hell yeah! Do I have any regrets? Hell No! Each decision I made took me one step closer to self-awareness and closer to my destination ... whatever that looks like. I now know I have a well of inner strength that has become a solid foundation on which I can engage with Life … and that it contains!
John’s book, Man Unplugged – Exploring The Inner Man, is available at manunplugged.com.au and explores:
Hello and Welcome Terese Eglington to the 1000 Ripple Effects Book Project!
Hello, I am Terese Eglington, author and illustrator of ‘Wotsiu and the Whispering Wattles’ and ‘The Laughing Tree’. I am a primary school teacher and former dance teacher. Writing and painting are two of my favourite activities, and combining them in children’s books has been extremely rewarding, especially seeing the faces of both children and adults light up as they turn the pages. My stories and illustrations are inspired by events, landscapes and wildlife of the local area.
If you would like to know more or chat about my writing or art please email me at email@example.com or
follow my face book page: https://www.facebook.com/terese.eglington
Terese Eglington - Children's Book Author
Written by: Louise Keramaris
YOUR RIPPLE OF WHAT DRIVES YOUR OWN “ENERGY” CREATES HOW YOU KNOW YOURSELF AND WHAT MEANING YOU ASCRIBE TO YOUR LIFE
From as young as nine years of age, I was always intently and deeply curious about myself, how my physical body ticked, the purpose of my life, the essence of humanity, the universe we inhabit and all of what I could see in the sky, the stars, the clouds, the sun, the moon, the earth, all the animals and plant life, what I felt and the source of my feelings, where my thoughts came from and even this thing called “AIR” became the inquisition into everything and anything that crossed my path. I was obsessed to know and understand ME and LIFE! It became what I was drawn to each and every day of my life. I had this deep quest to know and understand it ALL.
I would describe my first ripple of intense “push and pull” energy as being a pull in my consciousness which drew out thoughts that pushed me to an “intense curiosity to understand”.
This became the quest of my life, to create meaning in each of my experiences in order to make sense of what I witnessed every day. During these early years, I trusted that we must be a MIRACLE of life here on this planet and hence something that could not be explained. I also had this other part of me that could not accept this to be as is and wanted to understand the source of all life. This tension was the starting point that nurtured and niggled at my soul.
My aim was to get to the truest truth and to understand what was the meaning of life and specifically the purpose and mission of my essence.
It was not uncommon for me to spend hours upon hours asking these questions in my head, pondering over scenarios covering many reflections wired through my imagination. Even though I spent hours reading over thousands of pages in the encyclopedia (in those days there was no internet!) I nevertheless found that I would not find what I was looking for there as I had this inner knowing that all the answers were right here within me and it was up to me to come up with the answers. I conjured up spectacular theories of other planetary beings and even at one stage believed that perhaps we are not alive at all but merely living in someone’s dream. I recounted these theories as reflections in my diary. I kept these thoughts private as I was aware that these were not subjects that other people engaged with!
The second ripple of energy came about through the “infinite questions I asked” myself, others and the books and resources I sought after to receive the plausible truth.
I started to read everything and anything I could get my hands on, asking a myriad of questions to my parents, my aunts and uncles and my grandmother – the wiser older ones that formed my community. I targeted any significant peer and all the adults in my life. The most interesting answers to some of my questions came from a dear uncle. This uncle was a spectacular story teller who recounted extraordinary accounts of “miracles” achieved by saints through the ages and stories told to him about healing and manifestation. The ones that I do recall most clearly were stories of “superstitious practices” and beliefs relayed about the gypsies in Greece that caste extraordinary spells. One of these provided a plausible explanation as to why you were never allowed to handover any items of clothing to them as they were likely to caste such spells nor were you to invite them into your house. He recalled an instance where key members of a family that suddenly became ill without any explanation. There was a strong belief that the gypsies had some role to play here!
One of his stories is the most vivid of all. He recounted what he saw one day on the front page of a Greek newspaper. The article was about the remnants of a spaceship that had landed and embedded was a photo of an alien that unfortunately had not survived! He went on to describe in great depth this tiny being. I remember being so awe-struck by this possibility of life-forms on other planets. I felt somewhat comforted by this knowing that perhaps these beings did surround us. It gave me some hope that they were looking over us.
The third ripple effect of energy was triggered through the “early answers I received to some of these big questions”. It set forth a wave of inner knowing and consciousness. This was the beginning of truth and understanding.
When I was growing up there was no internet so the key sources of knowledge were each family’s trusted encyclopedia, books from the library, the television, radio, the local shopping strip, magazines and newspapers and anything I could get my hands on at school.
Having grown up in a strict religious Greek Orthodox upbringing, I had this inner knowing that of course there was something bigger than ourselves and perhaps this was what was labelled as God or the Holy Spirit or some other creative force.
I joined my wise grandmother who I am named after, Theologia, in church as I sat and stood for hours in prayer and meditation listening to ancient Greek church services. I remember being entranced by the vibration of the humming created through these foreign scriptures that permeated through my being. I received waves of overwhelming peace and a knowing that there was something here worth figuring out. This sowed the seeds of my spiritual journey. I started to understand the power of silence, the gap between my thoughts and the trance like state that carried me to a space beyond what is known, through the power of prayer.
The fourth ripple effect on energy was realising that the wisdom of truth was the “power of silence as this was the source of vibration”. This was the turning point of my life and one that took me on a bigger journey through the years to explore the ancient wisdom of Elders of diverse cultures and the practices and teachings of spiritual mentors such as Wayne Dwyer, Deepak Chopra, Louise Hay, Marianne Williamson and various mentors from both the East and Western spiritual traditions.
My urge to travel extensively and connect with diverse cultures and to pursue as much as possible a life of independence and freedom has lead me to make choices that have not been about following the masses but rather forming my own path to explore and discover. It has not been about following the “norm” and I was very conscious of this from a very early stage as I’ve never been one to follow any one tribe or group.
My quest to educate myself in the breadth of personal development training and courses in human behaviour, positive psychology and the tip of the neurosciences have equipped me with even more tools and resources to create “ripples” in the lives of many through my work professionally and personally.
I discovered that this “pull and push of energy” I felt that initially started as “curiosity” and then manifested in “questions and an exploration” and then tested through “experiences” were the ripples of energy that drove me to develop a theory of myself, humanity, this world and my presence in it. Without this internal “pull” and “push” of energy which I now see as a “ripple” I would not be standing here today focused on my passion of coaching people to create the “push and pull – ripple effect” within them to generate an energy and motivation to take action and create the results in their lives supporting their dreams and aspirations.
I now invite each of you reading this to reflect on the key ripples of energy that have moved you forward to understand how you have come to KNOW YOURSELF and those energies that have formed the trajectory of your life as it is to this day.
Hello and Welcome Baruch Inbar to the 1000 Ripple Effects Book Project!
Baruch Inbar is an accomplished, award winning visionary artist, illustrator, writer, designer and a published children's books author from Northern California. Baruch’s visionary re-interpretation of the classic children's novel, THE WIND IN THE WILLOWS -- attracted Disney’s attention, beginning his creative partnership with the company. Baruch's re-envisioned characters, dramatic landscapes and innovative treatment of the classic story were the genesis of the computer-generated feature film now set up at FOX 2000 with a $150 million budget.
For the past years and most currently, Baruch has been busy creating his own media properties, and consulting to other companies including Fortune500 companies such as: Sony, Disney, Coca Cola, and individual entrepreneurs, where he had been involved in the development of numerous entertainment and media projects: animation, film, apps, toys games and theme parks.
He published two children books (both authored and illustrated): 'SNURTLE' and 'TREE STAR', and contributed the artwork for the graphic novel 'BALACLAVA JUNCTION'.
Baruch's website is: http://www.Snaut.com
Written by: Steve Barker - I am Enough Coaching
Blog #3 of 6
The whole world is not out to get you:
One of the things that I have learnt over the years is that the world really doesn't care about what I do, who I am or where I hang out. When I say the world, I am talking on a global scale, not the people who know me in the world. When I am walking down the street or going into a shop, the world (general population in the vicinity at the time) don't even give me a second look. Yet for years and years I was concerned with who I was, what I looked like, did I fit in, and did I belong? So a question for you is; do you think the world (in general) worries about what you do? I am pretty sure when you think about the whole world the answer will be no. So if that is the case, why are you worrying about it? What is the ripple effect of you constantly worrying about what everyone thinks of you? I would hazard a guess to say that it is a waste of time and effort on your behalf and that you can use your time and energy in a much more constructive way.
So carrying on, I was having a discussion with an older friend and they said that I needed to take control of my environment, who I was, where I was going, my thoughts, my actions and that would help me lose this fear of not belonging, of not being enough. So I did, I started to take control of everything in my life. When I say everything, I mean everything, the questions I asked myself in my head, the actions I took, the thoughts that I had, the decisions I made, the impact of those decisions, my environment, my happiness, my anger, the outcomes of my actions and the subsequent consequences of those actions. I mean I took control of everything.
As I started to take control, I found that I was getting more done, I was actually not caring about the rest of the world’s opinion of me. I had decided on my 4 core values and the standards I had around those core values, and I was not going to let them slip for any reason. Now I had decided that and was actively following through, I knew “I was Enough” for the world, so I didn't have to worry about the world’s reaction. What are your core values and standards that you have, maybe if you can’t think of them straight away, grab a pen and paper and start to right down what is really important to you. As you form you list, go back and review each one and give it a score of 1 – 10 (10 being the most important). From that list you will then start to see a pattern forming and the high scoring values and standards are what you hold highest in your world, the 4 highest are your core values and standards. Now you know those, you can look at how you are living your life in accordance with them. The ripple effect is that if you live within your core values and standards, you are more likely to be at peace with yourself, and to be able to achieve much more, because you are not constantly fighting with yourself over a clash between your values and standards. Awareness is the key.
Keeping going with the story, I also noted that my life was changing, I was not judging people.....ahhhhhh judging people....was that why I was feeling judged? bingo!!! I realised that as I was judging others, so I felt I was being judged, my behaviour was being reflected back upon myself. So when I stopped, that behaviour stopped and so did the reflection (I hope you are keeping up with me, please message me if this is making no sense at all and I will try to explain in a different way). Wow, what a discovery I had made, and one that would ultimately change the rest of my life.
Why am I sharing this experience with you? Because I have walked my fair share of dark streets, I have lived with Cumulative Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD) (which I got from serving the in military), for over 20 years now, and learnt that mindset is the most positive thing in life. I work with people who are struggling to change their lives, they are frustrated with their situations and want to change but don't know how. The very first thing I look at with them, together, is are they taking responsibility for their own lives? Are they driving their own bus, or are they a passenger? Because if you are a passenger, then you are going to get taken wherever the bus driver wants to go, even if you don't want to go there. Become the bus driver and you can go wherever you want. My final question to you today is: are you driving your own bus or are you a passenger? The ripple effect from taking responsibility for every aspect of your life is that you are ultimately in control of your life. Because of this, and that you are responsible for everything within your life, you can now choose what to do in your life. If you make wise choices you can have the best life possible, but if you make poor choices, your life will be very different. What is a good choice and a bad choice I hear you ask? Well, that is the beauty of driving your own bus….only you know what is best for you.
Decide that today is the day that you are going to start taking responsibility for everything in your life. Then, take massive action to do just that. This is not something that will happen overnight, but over a period of time, you will develop the muscles, mindset and strategies to achieve this, and your life will be your own. You can drive your bus wherever you wish. Now imagine, where you could go with that personal power within you? ” You are Enough.”
The whole world is not out to get you:
Books Books Books!!
Books are INCREDIBLE things, but I couldn't have told you this until a few years ago. I didn't read in school, unless it was a class book we were reading and even then, it was the worst chore I could think of. I didn't understand the girl who sat in the library and read a book in a day, like really, are you kidding me??!! Why??
Many years later, needing to kill time while waiting to have my 2nd child, we went to the library for the sole purpose of trying to entertain my 4 year old daughter while we were out of town. I took the book I had read maybe 2 chapters, I owned it probably for a couple of years. I bought the book because I really liked the movie, and as I sat in the library while my 4 year old was entertained on the computer, I suddenly found myself immersed in the pages of the adventure that lie in the words spread out line after line. I finished the book within a week and I suddenly got it, I understood!! I got why people read, escaping into a completely other world, it was amazing!! I was pretty proud of myself for the effort and thoroughly enjoyed it.
I started to read more books and I discovered quickly there were ones I couldn't put down. Ones where I would sneak away to the bedroom every spare minute I had to read some in between cries and feeds and staying up late because I just didn't want to put it down. I'd come to love reading, something I never thought I'd say, but it was great. I really loved reading fantasy fiction books.
Fiction then Non-Fiction
Up until May 2015, I had only ever read fiction books. I'd been given a self-help book by a psychologist but just couldn't get into it.
Mid 2015 I found myself embarking on a new journey starting my own business. I was encouraged by a mentor to read a professed life-changing book called The 4 Agreements. I soon went to the bookstore and purchased the book. I sat down and started reading it, she was right, it was pretty amazing and I had only read the first agreement. This agreement alone, actually did help change my life and the timing was perfect as it helped me deal with a personal situation in life which I otherwise would have had great difficulty with getting through. I finished the book and now live my life as much as I can following the 4 Agreements. They help me live an authentic life, one with integrity and honesty. My mentor at the time was correct, The Four Agreements is a life-changing book and one I often find myself sharing it with other's often. This was the start of my journey into the personal development, self-help genre and non-fiction books.
Since my journey to personal growth began, I've found myself blessed with so much wisdom through the pages of incredible books, with profound messages in each one which helps me improve my life, or challenges and helps me change my way of thinking and beliefs, ultimately improving the quality of the life I lead. The pages of the books I've read have helped me understand more about myself, my family, given me confidence to be the person I am and the person I desire to be.
There have been times where a book has jumped off the bookshelf at a library (I wish I could say literally because it feels like that's what happened) where each page seemed to answer an underlying question I didn't even realise I had at the time. Divine intervention some would say. I have laughed at stories, cried with stories and been through all the emotions in between while reading books. I've seen deeply into other's lives and been inspired by their stories and adversities they've been able to overcome. Writing my own book I have the hope to be able to do the same for other's as has been contributed to me over the years. I often find myself at the library now, either writing my own book, or reading one and I love taking the kids there too. An invaluable lesson teaching children the value of books is something I didn't learn for too long and I don't want my children to miss out on the tremendous offering books encompass.
Kids and Books
Both my children have a love of books, and I can only put that down to reading to them since they were children. They read to me sometimes at bedtime now too. They love borrowing books from the library and they too love the adventures books offer. I also love the fact they enjoy going to the library and it's not just a place for 'geeks' as I used to think growing up, there is much to be learnt and enjoyed in a library.
I wish I had books read to me as a child. The special time of a parent sitting down reading their child a bedtime story, sharing adventures and fairy-tale stories, learning about all the wonderful things your imagination can provide following the paths of the characters in the books. Reading books and planting seeds with valuable lessons for children to take with them throughout their life. Books for children provide much more than just words and pictures on a page, they are full of wonderful memories which can be held onto for a life-time.
Sadly, not all children will get the luxury of these memories.
There are so many children who won't ever experience the joy and elation of their Mum or Dad sitting with them at night reading them a bedtime story, or to hear the words read aloud of the pages which lay open in front of them. The stories and information a parent would relay to them as they grow up, teaching them valuable things about life. The wonderful memories and experiences of sitting on the lap of a parent while their arms embrace you, their voice soft by your ear as they change their tones and voices portraying different characters on the page may never be experienced for many children, but not all is lost. We still have the opportunity to change children's lives through books and gift them what they might never otherwise receive. The 1000 Ripple Effects Project is one of the many opportunities we have to change a child's life, by bringing words of wisdom, or a story to a child who doesn't have a Mum or Dad to pass on to them.
Messages in books
Books are life-changing, there is absolutely no doubt about it. The ripple effect of reading a book has the potential to change your life over and over again, not only for you but you also have the ability to pass on what you've learnt to another person through a book and so on. I recommend The 4 Agreements book to everyone I get into a conversation with about books. This one book alone suggested by a mentor has impacted my life so much, I know sharing it with others has and will have had the same potential it did for me, an everlasting ripple effect, who knows where it even began before it was shared with me. I've even lent my copy out to be read too. To do this often and with several different books is not only a moving ripple effect, but multiple ripple effects, continually affecting, changing and impacting other's lives.
There are SO many beautiful things which can be found and gifted through books, so many lessons, advice, inspiration and motivation. The idea for this blog came to me as I sat in front of my stack of books deciding which one to read next when I was reminded of the 'ripple effects' books can offer. At the same time remembering the beautiful intention of The 1000 Ripple Effects project devoted to package a special offering for children and others around the world for the sole purpose of changing their life and gifting them what they may never otherwise be given. It seemed only fitting this be my next topic for my blog, what an incredible opportunity it is to be able to pass on and change even just one child's life. Just beautiful!
1000 Stories. 1000 gold nuggets. 1000 gifts all throughout 4 books with the power to change many thousands of lives, and best of all, children's lives. It's all about giving back, the power of The 1000 Ripple Effect.
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Do you have a piece of advice, or a story you'd like to share with a child? You too can be involved, you don't need any special abilities, titles, gifts. Everyone has a message, and YOU can be part of this too. Head on over to www.1000rippleeffects.com to find out how you too can be a part of this incredible project, all about giving back and changing lives.
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Written By Kayleen Greagen-Castle
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I am Enough Coaching
The minefield of emotions
How do you manage your emotions? Do you manage them at all? Or do you try to ignore them and hope that they will go back to where ever they came from?
What are emotions? They are in really basic language, little messages sent from your brain to give you feedback on how you are going, how you are viewing and reacting to given situations. Some people see them as gifts, most of us see them as exploding nuggets that can send us off on a tangent for a while.
How about if I were to explain some of the many emotions to you, so that you can understand them and then know how to help them melt away, back to nothing. Or even better, how to cultivate your garden of positive emotions, how to make them grow and become the overriding force of emotions, rather than having negative emotions all the time? Does that sound good or what?
First of all, let’s look at a basic rule around emotions. You cannot ignore them, they need to be acknowledged and addressed. If you try to ignore an emotion, it will keep coming back, stronger and stronger until you acknowledge it and do something about it. So with that in mind, lets rock and roll and find out more about emotions.
I am going to address 3 commonly felt emotions –negative and positive (there are many more and I am happy to unpack these with anyone who wishes to with me).
First of all let’s look at the emotion of “Hurt” - This is a feeling that dominates human relationships, both personal and professional. Feelings of hurt are usually generated by a sense of loss. When people are hurt, they generally lash out at others.
So what is the message that our brains are trying to tell us when we are experiencing the emotion of being hurt?
The emotion of hurt tells us is that we have an expectation that has not been met. Many times this feeling arises when we’ve expected someone to keep their word and they haven’t, this can even happen if you have not told them of your expectation. In this case you feel a loss of intimacy, or maybe a loss of trust with this person. It is the sense of loss that creates the feeling of hurt.
What is the action we need to take to acknowledge the emotion and what can we do about it:
Realise that in reality you may not have lost anything. Maybe what you need to lose is the false perception. I know this sounds crazy, but did you really lose something? Or did you perceive to lose something, was that thing “yours” to lose? Reevaluate the situation, Ask yourself is there really loss here? Or am I judging the situation too soon or too harshly?
Another solution is to communicate elegantly and appropriately communicate your feeling of loss to the person involved. By discussing your feeling of loss, explaining why you feel the way you do, you may be able to help the other person realise that you feel that you have been let down, felt used or your trust has been abused. The other person may not even have realised that these boundaries even existed let alone have been breached.
The ripple effects of this emotion can be far reaching, they may stop you from entering into other relationships, and they may generate trust issues within yourself, which in turn can manifest themselves in all manner of negative ways as your life continues. So, have the courage to address this emotion as soon as you feel it.
Frustration can come from many avenues in our life. Any time we feel like we are surrounded by roadblocks, walls or obstacles…where we are constantly striving to achieve, putting out effort, but not getting any reward, you are so close but never seem to be able to complete it successfully.
What is your brain trying to tell you when you feel like this?
The message of frustration is an exciting one, it is your brain saying it believes you can do better than you currently are. It preconceives that the solution to your problem is within reach, within range, but what you are currently doing is not working and you need to change your approach.
So what do you need to do to acknowledge this emotion and then to go and a resolve it?
Realise that frustration is your friend, and brainstorm new ways to get a result
Get some input on how to deal with the situation. Find a role model, someone who has done it before, ask them for input on how to more effectively produce your desired outcome.
Get fascinated by what you can learn that could help you handle this challenge, not only today, but in the future, in a way that consumes very little time or energy and actually becomes a joy.
The ripple effect is that as you get used to recognising when you are feeling this emotion, you can address it quickly. In turn this means that you will be wasting less time and resources and achieving your goals and outcomes much quicker, with less resources and waste. You will become a superstar, the emotion of frustration will give way to fascination and you will learn as you achieve. The ripple effect for this is endless and exciting, just imagine where you can now go armed with this understanding of how to overcome frustration and turn it into fascination.
Emotions include everything from being mildly irritated to being angry, resentful, furious or even enraged.
The Message that this emotion is telling us is that:
An important rule or standard that you hold for your life has been violated by someone else, or maybe even by you.
When you get the message of anger, you need to understand that you can literally change this emotion in a moment.
What can you do to make this change happen, to acknowledge the emotion and to melt it away in an instant?
Realise that you may have misinterpreted this situation completely. That your anger about this person breaking “your” rules that you know exist and the fact may be that they don’t know what’s most important to you (even though you believe they should).
Realise that even if someone did violate one of your standards, your rules are not necessarily the “right” rules, even though you feel as strongly as you do about them.
Ask yourself an empowering question – in the long term, is it true that this person really cares about me? Interrupt the anger by asking yourself, what can I learn from this? How can I communicate the importance of my standards, in a way that causes them to want to help me uphold these standards/rules?
The ripple effect of this, is that you are taking control of the situation, you are realising why you are feeling angry. To do this, means you have high self-awareness, which in turn means you can control yourself. Imagine, being able to control yourself in all situations, you can raise your awareness to a level where you can foresee the situation becoming out of control and do something about it. Even turn it around and have others help you maintain the importance of rules and standards. Self-awareness and Self-control are two game changing life skills to have and if you have mastered them you can take your life to a whole new level.
Now we have addressed 3 common negative emotions – there are actually 10 common negative emotions in total. Let’s have a look at 3 positive emotions. I want you to think of these positive emotions as seeds, you need to plant these seeds each and every day, nourish them, water them and watch them grow. Eventually they will grow so much they will envelop your world and surround you with all that is good about life. You can do this, and use these emotions as your day to day mindset, not allowing the negative emotions to break through and when they do, you know you can handle them.
Love and Warmth
The consistent expression of love seems to be able to melt any negative emotions it comes in contact with. To embrace anything and show it love and warmth, will not allow any negativity to creep in and destroy you. I know it sounds airy fairy, but try it, you will be amazed at how powerful it is. I was astounded by its power. Try this - If someone comes to you in a state of hurt or anger and you consistently respond to them with love and warmth, eventually there state will change and the intensity will melt away.
The ripple effect is that everything, everyone that comes into contact will feel your love and warmth toward them, and in turn, they will reflect this back to you. What you give, you shall receive.
All emotions are invaluable, but there is one that you must have if you are going to create lasting value in this world.
Determination means the difference between being stuck and being struck with the lightning power of commitment.
For example, if you want to lose weight, give up smoking, make more business calls at work, pushing yourself, just won’t do it. You need to be putting yourself in a state of determination. All your actions will spring from that source and you’ll just do whatever you need to automatically to achieve that outcome.
Without it you are doomed to frustration and disappointment. You need to cultivate your determination in a way that you set your goals properly.
The ripple effect of determination is that you will be unstoppable, you will power through any obstacle, never give up and will achieve everything you set out to. Even more so, you will learn, grow and develop massively as you encounter each obstacle, because you will develop ways of getting past them to achieve that goal you are determined to achieve.
Is the one seed to plant that will guarantee success, it is your ability to change your approach. If you think about all those negative emotions, they are calls to action for you to be more flexible!! Choosing to be flexible is choosing to be happy.
Flexibility is the key to everything, to be able to zig when the rest of the world is zagging. This flexibility will allow you to cultivate your emotions and then you will surely develop….
The ripple effect ties in with the ripple effect from determination, flexibility to adapt to any situation at a moment’s notice will enable you to dodge those obstacles, to see them coming and not run into them, but to side step them and keep going without losing momentum.
In conclusion, you own your emotions, they don’t own you. So only you can stop you from achieving anything in life, only you can acknowledge those emotions and move forward. So own them, believe in yourself, nurture the positive and grow them like a much loved garden, strive for your very best in life. You are Enough.